Merriam-Webster (m-w.com) defines “waiting” like this:
to remain stationary in readiness or expectation
to look forward expectantly
to hold back expectantly
Basically, no one likes waiting. Whether it be in a slow moving line at the convenience store or a mile-long line at a favorite restaurant, we have better things to do than while away the minutes—or hours—simply waiting. Waiting for Christmas morning to open those interestingly shaped presents feels like torture. The wait for school to be out and summer to begin drags on forever. Even waiting for dinner to be ready can be trying.
Waiting gets a bad rap most of the time. But some things are worth waiting for. Some things are so good, so unbelievably awesome that the wait is worth it no matter how long it takes. Sex is one of those worth-waiting-for things.
Some of you haven’t given much thought to the idea of waiting or not waiting when it comes to sex. It may or may not happen. You’ll make the decision if and when the opportunity presents itself. When the time’s right, you’ll know it—you hope.
Some of you are anxious to get the first time over–to remove the label ‘virgin’ from your resume and replace it with ‘experienced’ or ‘mature’ or ‘grown-up’. Because everyone says it’s better to be experienced, right?
Some of you are committed to saving yourself for marriage. You are waiting expectantly for your wedding night. You’re holding back the emotions and urges and hormones that nudge—maybe even push or shove–you toward sex.
Some of you didn’t wait for a ceremony or a license to engage in the intimacy of sex. Maybe you made a hasty decision. Or maybe you thought about it for a long time. Some of you regret your decision. Some of you don’t.
One thing is for sure: waiting to have sex is tough. Pressure to not wait is everywhere. TV and movies paint sleeping around as the cool thing. Friends are having sex, so why not you, too? And, if you’re in a committed relationship, the temptation to just do it can be overwhelming.
Before you make a decision that you can’t undo, step back and take a deep breath. Think about all the things you won’t have to worry about if you WAIT for sex. Like pregnancy and STD’s. I know what you’re going to say—birth control and condoms will protect me. Maybe. But the only 100% foolproof birth control is ABSTINENCE, and condoms only make sex somewhat ‘safer’ not completely safe.
And then there’s the whole emotional aspect. Sex is so much more than the coming together of two bodies. The feelings, the emotions involved in giving yourself so completely to another person will bond you to that person—whether you want it to or not. Because that’s what sex is supposed to do. No condom or form of birth control will protect your heart if and when that connection is ripped apart.
If you already didn’t wait, it’s not too late to stop being sexually active and WAIT. Don’t let your past make your future decisions. Don’t let friends or that special guy or gal make the call. You be the one to decide what’s best for you. Take some time to think about where you’re at and where you’re headed.
Choosing abstinence or ‘renewed abstinence’ says you believe sex is worth waiting for.
Is waiting important to you? Why or Why not?
It’s so difficult to explain to and help a young person understand, a young woman in particular, that there will be an emotional bond “whether you want it or not.” How much more satisfying and secure-feeling it is when you have that commitment of sharing your lives forever.
Hey, Beth. Great first post! Your comment button is at the top. I’m not sure you can move it to the bottom. I think that has to do with the style/theme you selected for your site. You could click around on the settings and see.
Wish we had blogs like this when I was a teen. I might have listened better. Thank you.
Great post and much needed! I’ll have to have you as a guest blogger sometime soon. 🙂